"Helping you find the joy of asking for and receiving
what you truly desire."
Joy? Consent? Can those two words really be used in the same sentence?
Yes! They really can.
What's true is that once real, embodied consent is established between two (or more) people, then everyone can joyfully "play" inside of that beautiful agreement.
But how do you get there?
Because... well, you know that feeling when you envision what you really desire with someone, and yet... you just can't quite bring yourself to ask for it? It's "right there" on the tip of your tongue, but your mouth just won't make the words?
So many people find it difficult to express their desires and ask for what they really want.
What I do is help you get past those blocks and learn how to receive and give joyfully - in full consent, and with a full, open heart.
Take a moment and imagine how that would change your life...
Howdy! I'm Jay Gerring, founder of The Joy of Consent ™ and I'm a Relationship and Intimacy Empowerment Guide and Educator. The work I do is based on The Wheel of Consent, originated by Dr. Betty Martin.
"Be Curious, Not Judgmental"
— Jay Gerring's personal motto
Since 2020, I have immersed myself in learning, practicing, and playing with the concepts of the Wheel with my mentor and our local community of "Wheelheads" in Austin, Texas.
It has quite literally transformed my life.
Now I offer my services to folks who want to learn how to create beautiful, consensual pathways for expressing their desires and experiencing the Joy of Consent.
All of you is welcome here!
My Offerings
For Anyone:
The Art of Consent
For individuals who desire to mindfully explore, unfold, and expand their own power in asking for what they want. This is an in-person, 3-month program where we will meet weekly, consciously following a path to your full embodiment of consent. You will learn and master the subtle - yet powerful - art of receiving and giving.
Expanding Consent & Desire
For couples and polyamorous folks. I will facilitate your exploration together to tap the well of desire within your relationship(s). This in-person, 3-month program will take you to the places that each of you have always wanted to go, but have likely never asked for. In our weekly sessions, we will explore the art of receiving and giving, the subtleties of "who is it for?" and the magic of expressing your own deepest desires without shame or shyness.
The Desire Deep Dive
For couples and polys. Book an exclusive, all-inclusive weekend retreat with me to dive in and master your own ability for receiving, giving, and expressing & receiving what you desire. This experience will awaken your senses, expand your ability to access your deep desires, and catapult you into a new reality in your relationship(s).
Find Your Inner YES!
In this unique "explore-shop" for individuals or folks in relationships, spend an afternoon finding your inner "Yes!" We'll explore solo practices and platonic paired touch exercises to open up your inner knowing. This unforgettable experience will help you notice and feel your channels to embodied desire so that you can feel and find your inner yeses - and nos.
Consensual Cuddling
For people of any orientation. Enjoy the magic, joy, and bliss of a wonderful, platonic, clothes-on cuddle session. And especially for anyone who has had challenges with trusting others, or feeling uncomfortable or unsettled when cuddling - maybe wondering if the other person really wanted more - I'm right here for you. I will always honor your limits and ask for your permission to touch you when we cuddle. You will feel what it's like to have your boundaries completely respected while sinking happily into the bliss of cuddling.
For Practitioners:
Collaborative Client Education
If you are a relationship, intimacy, or human performance coach, looking for an extra dimension to help your clients reach a deeper experience of finding and delving into their heart's desires... let's explore how we can collaborate to bring them a unique, empowering new perspective that enables them to access joy and bliss through consent.
Events: Speaking and Experiences
Do you host and/or facilitate events, get-away retreats, conferences, etc. where deep topics such as asking for and receiving your heart's desire are explored? Then the Joy of Consent fits right in! Please contact me with your desire so that we can co-design a unique, heart-opening experience custom tailored just for your audience.
For Wheelheads:
Individual Quadrant Practice/Play
For folks of any orientation. Have you completed a Wheel of Consent workshop or worked with me, and still want to explore "the quadrants" in deeper ways? Then this is for you! We will review the dynamics of the Wheel and then practice together. You will be able to express your authentic desires after they have been heard. Then we'll establish consent for those desires you wish to practice - and then it's game on!
Wheelhead Dojos (Dates TBA)
Join other Wheelheads to review the dynamics of the Wheel and then collaboratively practice serve-accept and take-allow. These are clothes-on, platonic touch events where we co-create a mindful, blissful, and joyful experience!
Be sure to join our email list below to be notified of our upcoming Dojos and events.
And if you feel a compelling desire to work with me in some way that is not on the menu above, just get in touch via the Contact Me form below...
About Jay
Howdy! I'm Jay Gerring, founder of The Joy of Consent™ and I'm a Relationship and Intimacy Empowerment Guide and Educator. The work I do is based on The Wheel of Consent, originated by Dr. Betty Martin.
Since 2020, I have immersed myself in learning, practicing, and playing with the concepts of the Wheel with my mentor and our local community of "Wheelheads" in Austin, Texas. It has quite literally transformed my life.
Now I offer my services to folks who want to learn how to create beautiful, consensual pathways for expressing their desires and experiencing the Joy of Consent.
"All of you is welcome here!"
Kind Words From Others
About My Work With Them
"I had the unique opportunity to work with Jay at an Intimacy Retreat my healing center on the Pacific Coast of Nicaragua. Jay surpassed all my expectations in his depth of knowledge of the material, his ability to navigate difficult situations, conversations and feelings, and his absolutely wonderful demeanor. The information he expertly shared allowed the participants to grow and evolve in meaningful and unexpected ways, and his peaceful and supported presence brought a wonderful stability to the group dynamic. I look forward to working with him in the future and I would highly recommend anyone who wants to move forward in their relationships to work with him."
Michelle Fleming
www.EvolutionTrainings.com"Jay is an exceptional teacher of empowered intimacy. I invited Jay to co-teach my couples retreat, Finding the Sweet Spot, February, 2025, and his experience with the Wheel of Consent and the ability to both present and supervise group interaction is professional and trusted. He is clear and knowledgeable, as well as warm and engaging. Teaching erotic choice, consent and communication alongside Jay was a joy—not only for me, but our students."
Charla Hathaway
www.CharlaHathaway.com"Jay brought so much warmth and a wealth of experience as he guided us to explore deep authenticity and pleasure through gentle yet powerful practices and rich discussions. From beginners to seasoned explorers in the world of desire, touch, and consent, this "explore-shop" opened the door wide for all of us to deepen our connection with ourselves and others, and to empower ourselves to claim more of what we really want and who we truly are. I left feeling inspired, grateful, and more alive overall. I realized I had given myself a big gift by saying Yes to participating and caring for myself in this way."
Joaquin
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